Since this is my blog..but of course meant at one time to be a real site, I’ve decided I can come here to think out loud! Maybe someone will see? Hmm…if they do they might just wonder!
ok. So what’s the deal with dysfunctional families? Does everyone live in a dysfunctional family or come from one or have one in their not so distant past? I’m beginning to think YES!
So I’m sitting at my desk at work. Minding my own business, dying of complete boredom that only online training sessions can give and I see I have a new e-mail! YAY! It might be a policy change, or a new intake calendar or something from the governor! I open it and it’s a e-mail from my sister in law. My husband’s oldest sister. sigh… and then the immediate thought of WTH?? How did she get my e-mail. At work?
My husband has been estranged from his family for quite some time. The decision to do so wasn’t a easy one for him and it’s too long and personal of a story to share. However I respect HIS decision and aside from the occasional asking him if he misses them I’ve stayed out of that area altogether. Well the e-mail from his older sister came very unexpected and out of the blue. After I confirmed that yes, I was indeed her sister in law she sent another e-mail. She told some things that had happened within the family, said she’d been thinking of us, said she understood if we weren’t involved with the family because of the intense drama and asked that I tell her brother that she missed him. I being the spineless person that I sometimes can be, not wanting to hurt feelings, I wrote her back after carefully picking my words.
I told her about our family, some family happenings and that I would mention her e-mail and definitely tell her brother that she missed him. Of course I also told the truth however sugar coated I made it! I did tell her that the ultimate decision to get involved again with the family was up to her brother. I told her that her brother was of the opinion that to get involved probably wasn’t the best thing for our family right now but that again, I’d speak to him about his opinions. I said I hoped she and her family were well and thanks for contacting us.
WHY do I do this stuff? Why am I put in the middle of this stuff? I get her response to that e-mail today. It was a nice, simple yet snarky response. All of one sentence..
It said, “Ya know what? Never mind. Forget I found your e-mail.”
I couldn’t help it. I responded. I said all of two sentences. “LOL! Nice. ok, no problem!”
First of all this is not my family. This is my husband’s family. I’m not fond of them however I don’t offer up my opinion unless asked. They and their problems and dis functionality belong to him. I will stand by his decision either way it goes. I’m not quite sure what I said to SIL but evidently she wanted to hear something else in my words. Sucks to be her I guess!
That’s the first thought I just got out! LOL! Now on to one more! Just for fun ya know 
I will slit my throat if my daughter turns out like a lot of girls I’ve been seeing. Tell me. Someone!! Please tell me. What is the fascination of having babies with several different men, all of whom end up in prison or who are unemployed and on drugs or some other such horror? This past week or so, in fact I’ve spoke with two in one day, I’ve met girls who did just this. Young pretty girls. Girls that would have had a future. Girls that now sadly will find it very difficult to have a good future. They go after these guys that can’t and won’t support them, neither financially or emotionally. Guys that can’t/don’t work. Guys that are criminals and sometimes are very cruel. What is the pull to these guys?? Seriously?? WTF??
I can honestly say if my daughter starts to fall for guys like this I will step in front of a moving bus!!!! OMG!! It’s a fear of mine and I’m going to start drilling it into her head even more than I have already. Get a partner!!!!! A REAL man for God’s sake!!!!!!!!
Rant over!! Whew! Bet if anyone is reading this they are now glad it’s over! LOL!
Thinking out loud has made me realize that ultimately what I’m doing here, with this site and occasional blathering that I call a blog, is up to me as well. I’m thinking on it. I might do what I wanted to do, re-design, start fresh, try to advertise like I should’ve been doing all along… then again? I might close for awhile. Take stock. I’m not sure. It’s still too soon for a decision.
Whatever I do I’ll keep my name, eclecticRed. I like it 
Have a good week anyone and everyone!! See ya at the next “think out lout” session!
I still can’t believe that email. WTF? It’s almost like some weird double personality thing.
And OMG I hear you on the guy thing. I feel like wrapping Zoe and Helena in nuclear chastity belts sometimes.